Why women feel compelled to clean, polish and moisturize their mates.

It's often said that behind every great man there's a great woman. What they don't tell you is that she's there because she's either shaving her partner's back, popping his hard-to-reach zits or exfoliating the dead skin off his sunburn.

Such is the unsavoury but almost universal behaviour of the fairer sex behind closed doors. Just as primates are predisposed to grooming their mates, women feel inexplicably compelled to clean, polish and moisturize our men until their testosterone turns a pale shade of pink.

Ask any guy and he'll admit - perhaps a tad reluctantly - that at least one female in his life has prodded him with tweezers, tugged at a stray eyebrow hair or attacked a pimple on his back as if it were threatening the state of democracy.

Some might call it obsessive.

We prefer to call it good spousekeeping.

To be clear, the goal isn't to turn men into women with these cosmetic rituals. Who then would kill spiders and open jars?

We simply want a guy with the body of Brad Pitt, the grooming of Prince William, the hairlessness of a dolphin, two separate eyebrows and the willingness to buy us tampons on the way home from work.

Really, is that too much to ask?

Because men don't come with warranties, their significant others can't return them to the manufacturer - namely, mommy dearest - when something malfunctions. So it's imperative to perform regular maintenance, which entails everything from monitoring his cholesterol to overseeing his skincare habits and preventing the unholy union of socks with sandals.

Writing in the new issue of T: The New York Times Style Magazine, S.S. Fair issues a clarion call to women who want to further this curious practice.

"It's time we divert those queer eyes from our straight guys and take over decorating and renovating the opposite sex ourselves. It's time for us to rescue the clueless hetero man from being bossed around by anyone but us."

To our credit, we somehow manage to control our compulsive grooming urges at the beginning of a relationship. Much the same way guys control urges to clean the bathroom - their entire lives.

But as a comfort level builds and the bathroom door is less likely to stay closed, a female's desire to bust out the hair clippers and channel Edward Scissorhands becomes too overpowering to ignore.

Of course, straight men would sooner watch a Highway to Heaven marathon with Richard Simmons than submit to the whims of a wannabe spousekeeper. But upon realizing that a woman brandishing tweezers, antiseptic and a safety pin is likely the closest they'll ever get to S & M, most surrender.

Just days ago, a co-worker confessed her husband gamely indulges her need to pluck the wiry black hairs from his neck.

Another revealed a profound sadness that her talon-like nails bar her from attending to her boyfriend's back blemishes. (If he ever needs a tracheotomy, however, she's totally prepared.)

A third woman sheepishly chimed in, exposing her secret penchant for peeling the dead skin off her hubby's arms and shoulders.

Not surprisingly, this type of gritty discourse is lacking around the water cooler, thus leading every man to believe he's alone in being treated like a science project in the bathroom. Each feels that if anyone were to discover why his nose hairs no longer runneth over, Maxim would suspend his subscription and he'd be denied entry at Hooters.

Today, we break the code of silence and recognize those who have suffered physical indignities in the name of female neuroticism. Men, believe it when we say you are not alone.

Just follow the trail of pink testosterone.

The stories of Misty Harris can be found in such high-profile publications as the National Post, the Chicago Sun-Times, Flare magazine, the Montreal Gazette, the Ottawa Citizen, the Vancouver Sun and the Edmonton Journal, among others. Misty lives in Edmonton, where she is currently plotting how to finance her next Chanel handbag.

More and more men across the world are using cosmetics these days, and they're apparently not embarrassed to admit it, new reports conclude. New skin care brands such as Biotherm Hommes and Clarins Mens have had good care brands such as Biotherm Hommes and Clarins Mens have had good success with their products intended for men, and a recent industry poll showed that 77 percent of men agreed that coloring hair is a "masculine" thing to do..'

Original news summary: (http://www.thecosmeticsite.com/1230177.html)

care brands such as Biotherm Hommes and Clarins Mens have had good success with their products intended for men, and a recent industry poll showed that 77 percent of men agreed that coloring hair is a "masculine" thing to do.'

Article courtesy of news target http://www.newstarget.com

By DANIEL J. VARGAS
Copyright 2004 Houston Chronicle

Blake Smith is a modern man, and in this manicure-pedicure, metrosexual era he feels comfortable using eye gel to reduce puffiness and dark circles, and a face scrub to exfoliate dead skin cells, as part of his morning regimen. Occasionally the pop singer, who was raised in Houston, dabs a little concealer to hide blemishes and pats some anti-shine powder on his face when he's preparing for a live performance.

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Guys, we need to start caring about our looks, skin care and overall presentation!

There are great on line sites providing solid advice on relationships, divorce and dating, - judging by the number of monthly hits on these sites, we really need help!!! That said, it’s only part of the picture – part of feeling good about yourself is feeling confident about how you look. We need to develop an overall healthy approach to our lives.

Menslooks.com encourages men to take care of their skin and their looks. Women have known all along, that taking care of your skin can make you look younger and feel great. With today’s men’s skin care, cosmetic lines and cosmetic options, how you choose to take care of your skin and your looks has never been easier. We have found that the most consistent advice in the industry is to protect your self from sun damage. Men’s skin care and cosmetics is a rapidly growing industry as men have more courage and knowledge about skin protection and enhancement. Men’s skin care and cosmetic manufacturers have introduced products created specifically for men. At the same time, every manufacturer of leading women’s cosmetic lines has developed a men’s line, using years of research and experience. Hair care for men, after shave and fragrances have all developed at a ferocious pace in the past few years. Cosmetic procedures, both surgical and non surgical, are available for men and growth in this area has been exponential.

General lifestyle changes are also very important for maintaining a youthful look and sex appeal: a focus on exercise, diet, avoiding cigarettes and reducing stress are some of the positive ways to achieve this. Our world has become very demanding, it’s important to keep our vitality, positive outlook, feel good about ourselves and the way that the rest of the world sees us. We trust you will find this site helpful, not only for those who want to remain competitive and stay on top of fashion and pop culture trends,, but also for those who are looking to recapture their more youthful looks once again.

We’ll show you how and where to purchase men’s skin care products, cosmetics and fragrances. The site will feature articles from some of the most influential sites on men’s health, fitness and advice relating to men’s looks. We also ask men to consider the effects of over exposure to the sun on their children, to help them develop good sun protection habits at an early age.

Life today, has us taking stock of how we look. Recently a survey in Europe of teen age school boys reported that over 70% were not happy with their looks. While this is unfortunate in some respects, it does indicate that the shift of males paying attention to how they look, has occurred. Our competitive work force demands us to remain young and be change agents. With so many divorces, many men reenter the dating scene in their 40’s and 50’s, (and things are a bit different from the last time they dated)! The line: “Men age like good wine” doesn’t cut it any more. We think the ad for L’Oreal’s new men’s skin care line, Expertise sums it up perfectly: “You think lines add character, she thinks lines add years. L’Oreal, because you’re worth it.” Well, aren’t you?

We’ve noticed an increase in services catering to men’s health and looks: Magazines, Spas for men and even Barbershops are now offering specialized services and products.

We will be coordinating national events to promote men’s cosmetics, fragrances, travel, spas and image building.

Now is the time to start looking as good as you feel…..

Editor
Michael j hollis

49 AND HOLDING!!!!

By the time I was closing in on 50, I started to notice quite a few things changing, and they weren’t for the better! It was slow at first, but telling signs started to surface one by one.

My clothes just didn’t seem to feel as comfortable, despite the fact I was obsessed with running and walking anywhere and everywhere. The scale lied and said, “Hey, you’re looking pretty good for your age, but the reflection in the store windows didn’t lie. Who was that middle aged, rather “rounded looking individual – certainly, it could not be me! I have to admit, though, that despite my shock and horror, I was still able to out eat my teen age sons! Now what is THAT all about?!( I have to admit I have a sweet tooth - deserts are to be enjoyed,right?

The next trauma came when our main shareholder where I was working at the time made the innocent (right!) comment; “This project is turning Sean Grey”. Later that month, things got even worse! During a fishing trip, I was advised by a contemporary that I should wear a hat to keep my thinning scalp from burning. What thinning hair, had my hair stylist kept something from me? Oh, the shame!

The ladies at the office were very helpful, giving me advice on how to look a bit trendier with my clothes if I was going to play the nights!!! ( I still don’t understand what was wrong with that blue shirt – it was one of my favourites!

Hmm, well if nothing else, I was certainly getting a lot more respect from the younger generation of females; they readily addressed me as “Sir”. If anything is a reality check, that is!

Cruising the bars was not my scene, nor was it working – took me a while to realize that the attractive brunette sitting at the bar at 2 am with her umpteenth cocktail was not likely to be my “one and only”!! It was also quite evident to me that hangovers were not something brag about (or live through) at this age!

Even my car was looking tired - an inheritance from the last big break up.

One night, we were all talking about our favorite subject: “women”, when the topic of online dating came up. “Do you mean you could just specify the age, city, height, hair color personality, lifestyles and search for your true love? Well, that was all I needed to put the late night bars behind me. Online I went; there were several recommended sites to choose from.

I had to fill in my profile, not a problem for this part time racing driver, astronaut and now retired top tennis pro (yah, right!). Hmm - now to age. I am sure I can drop a few years with a stroke of the keyboard - everyone says I look younger than my age. I am told that most people keep their real age to them selves. The site says pictures will more than double your hits and responses and it is true!

So, I ask my son to take a few pictures. Well, after repeated complaints against the lighting, his poor timing and his inability to capture my “youthful” image, I realize the mirror is the biggest liar of them all. I was shocked by the bland hair color, the fuller face, dark circles, the middle aged, suburban hair cut - not to mention that and I am heavier than I ever realized. That can’t be me! “Wow, I really DO look my age, or older”, I could hear my self say. We gradually get used to seeing ourselves and living in the denial that we “don’t look so bad “for our age, ignoring the effects that over exposure to the sun, aging, stress and life style has had on our appearance. Thanks to the beauty digital photography, I was finally presented with the truth. GREAT!

I was not in a good place. I do not want to look my age. Simple as that!!!!

Reading the latest men’s magazines, I sought sage advice and then put my master plan into effect.

Need to drop a few pounds; cut out deserts and bad carbs, watch the processed foods,get more sleep, exercise at least 4 -5 days a week, get a new hair style and finally get the courage to ask for augmentation to the color of my hair.

Off I went, to the men’s clothes shop; now, even my boys borrow my shirts - so I was obviously on the money with my choices.

I decided to get a facial; the last one was a gift certificate some years back. My specialist was very informative on all the crèmes, serums and cleansers, especially helpful with recommendations for my dark circles and crowsfeet.

You know, I started to feel better; look better, I even spent some money on the car.
Call it mid life crisis, I call it reality: I do not want to look my age, so, I wanted to do something about it. Judging from the growth in men’s skin care and cosmetics, it would appear that I am NOT alone!

Robert Marshall
Free lance writer
Toronto

Fall was upon us once again. Coming home at the end of the day, I always felt like I was entering my own special retreat. Living on one of the most beautiful properties on the water, is so tranquil. I was getting settled into a very comfortable routine after raising my two boys and seeing them leave home. Rituals could now be enjoyed with privacy. Like many others, I had downsized into a manageable place once the family had left.

Time on the internet was all mine. I could blast my stereo with music I actually loved; no high fat snack foods or sodas in the house; walking around in the raw, workouts in briefs, a choice that was all mine. My clothes, hair care and skin care products were finally safe I could entertain with all the freedom and indiscretion my heart (or body) desired! Finally my place looked great and should I say, neat and organized.

Then, the call came; "Dad, can I move back home for about 3-4 months before I leave the country?" Well of course, the answer was automatically yes - it has been a while since he was home and besides, it means that he still needs me! In some respects, I really treasured the opportunity to bond with my son once more before he left the country, possibly for good. I felt that the dynamics of living under the same roof again would be somewhat different than when I was a single parent, trying to raise a family on my own. My boys are both single, so fortunately, there was no “baggage”. Well, so to speak of, except for Mr. Binx, my son’s one year old, ginger tabby. I have made a conscious effort to not have any pets at home since the dog left town a few years ago along with my ex.

Once my son moved in, I could recognized a distinct maturity level since he left home four years ago- it was quite a rewarding feeling, knowing that could see that I had done a really good job in raising him. I look back on my days of "motivation", ( discipline if you could call it) - sleepless nights, waiting up till all hours, cooking, laundry, housekeeping, school, Saturday soccer and shall we say, dealing with their "friends" and everything associated with that!

My 24 yr old son and I (the quintessential baby boomer) have many common interests. We now both have a bond with Mr. Binxs, love to play loud music, like the internet, TV, food, like to wear stylish clothes, and our taste in magazines is very similar – the only difference is the issue of smoking – DON’T get me started on that one! You would think that this generation would have learned a thing or two!

I knew things had truly changed, when my son offered to cook dinner, a BBQ delight. It was a great help having him assist me with all my music downloads for my i-pod. He’d studied graphic design, web design so having him as a resource was invaluable, given that I am working on a few online businesses.

Well, as is always true with life, there are things that we must endure with great patience. Turns out my son’s music taste is not compatible with mine- as a former musician, I like to keep current as I can. I am a big alternative music fan. My son, however, is into hip hop, rap, reggae and a limited amount of alternative.

Our TV habits are also completely different. Magazines: While I like to read my Coastal Living, Men’s Health, Men’s Fitness and Details, we both have an appetite for Maxim. While I greatly appreciated my son’ thoughtfulness with the surprise lunch that he brought home this weekend, (delicious, huge sausage sub, dry roasted peanuts and a pop) it didn’t quite fit my recommended Mediterranean diet requirements.

Back to the cat - by now, I could tell Mr. Binxs was settling in quite comfortably. Why not? I believe that in this new environment, he was getting more attention, not to mention regular food and water. I am sure my son’s long hours at work, late nights out and staying over night at friends may have left Mr. Binxs alone and lonely many nights. Having said that, I am quite taken by the bond between my son and Mr. Binx. This cat hangs on his every word, watches his every movement and comes instantly when my son calls him. It is very heartwarming, indeed.

Of course, we clash over the domination of my laptop. My son’s computer had crashed – he was now living with me and my brand new laptop, so why buy a new one just yet?!

On the subject of wardrobe, it was quite interesting; my jackets, shoes and jeans where more than acceptable for him to “borrow”. Well, I do have good taste for an old guy - DKNY, Calvin Klein, Tommy Hilfiger and Liz Claiborne. However, shirts were another issue altogether. (I think that’s a good thing!)

Most interestingly, was the amount of cosmetics we both had. My son, while still having very youthful looks, did have crèmes with sun protection, as he spent a considerable amount of time outdoors these days, he took particular care in choosing shaving crèmes and lotions. He has sensitive skin, so specialized shaving crèmes are a must. He also has good quality shampoo, conditioner, face scrubs and aftershave/fragrance. I have to say that I have learned a lot from his collection and realize how the new generation of men have bucked the “stigma” of men’s usage of cosmetics…and that’s a good thing!

While we had very similar toiletries and cosmetics, mine focused more on a very different “life stage”; read: “anti aging”. My products focus on skin repair, wrinkle and line management and most importantly eye repair cosmetics which incomprehensible to my son in his selection of products.

One of the most notable differences was that my son was drawn to large, multi-national brands found in high end pharmacies and department stores while I am interested in the new “boutique” lines which focus solely on men’s skin care.

I am sure over the next few months; we will no doubt try each others cosmetics and continue to learn from each other.

One thing that I can definitely predict about this experience is that I will truly miss my son when he leaves, after connecting with him again in such a special way. To Mr.Binxs, I can only say that I am grateful to have had the pleasure to have enjoyed and bonded with such a wonderful guest. He too, will be greatly missed.

Michael j Hollis
President and CEO
Menslooks.com

MENS VOGUE

If this doesn’t indicate the enormous shift to men’s interest in looking good, nothing will! The first thing we noticed is the prestigious, powerful appearance, similar to their iconic magazine for women. We found the advertisements to be very polished and classy. The magazine is uncluttered, which we found very refreshing and enjoyable to read. We were glad to see several men’s cosmetic lines featured and advertised in the magazine. Most men’s magazines seem focused on jamming in as much news, articles, gossip, females and advertisements in as small a space as possible.

George Clooney is most certainly an interesting and appropriate choice for the cover of the Men’s Vogue launch issue. The target for the magazine is clearly a more sophisticated, mature reader than many men’s magazines (it certainly appealed to this writer!). Articles were cleverly chosen to reflect the upscale image of the magazine. We would like to see, however, more of a focus on articles about health and skin care. It appears to us that their target is the sophisticated male boomer who has a keen interest in health and skin care issues. Very wise, as this is the target with the greatest desire and means for maintaining a youthful and healthy appearance.

Vogue, well done, we think you have set your self apart from the competition.

Editorial Staff.
Toronto

To all you amazing and influential women…
How to get your man to take care of his skin….you have the power!

Ah yes, we all know the resistance/fear/stubbornness faced with broaching this subject; man, if I were to suggest to any of my female connections they should do something about their make up or cosmetic choices it would be curtains for me. Fortunately, for us men, most women are far more diligent about taking care of their looks than we males have ever been!

Women, for centuries have enjoyed the pleasure associated with pampering themselves and their skin.

So how do you get your man to indulge himself? Despite all that macho stuff we like to project, we men love to be pampered. Here’s an idea – take a trip to the cosmetics department, or order the men’s cosmetic products you will need for a night of pampering: Perhaps a specially formulated shampoo for his hair type, exfoliating scrub, masque, shaving cream, after-shave lotion, moisturizer, eye cream, emollient body lotion, massage oil, and bath oil. Purchase a new razor, if your man uses those throw away blades. Buy some teeth whitening. Ask for help in making your choices, you will find most department stores and men’s websites are very knowledgeable and helpful. You’ll probably also find the prices to be more reasonable than women’s cosmetics.

Book a special evening with your man and prepare to set the stage. Tell him you are going to pamper him all evening: Light some candles, line up his favorite relaxing tunes, some wine and tell him you are going to give him a very sensual bath. When he sees that French lingerie you will be wearing, he will do exactly what he’s told to do! During the bath you will “maintain your focus” on the mission at hand. Let him shave himself by holding a mirror for him. Show him the men’s products you you’ll be using and then begin the relaxing facial, applying the cleansers, masque, moisturizers and creams.
Remark how great he looks. Then comes that awesome massage with the lotions and oils. (Trust me, he doesn’t need you to be an expert just your touch is enough for us men!)

After you rub any excess oils off in whichever way you deem appropriate, you can now take care of the finishing touches. That sensual fragrance you bought at the counter for him smells even better now when you apply it.

Let him know how sexy and relaxed he looks. Trust me, he will feel good - very good. Any man who would turn down that night doesn’t know what he’s missing! Chances are, he’ll love the results and will most likely continue to use those products afterwards.

If you think your man’s hair needs a bit brightening or intensifying you might suggest that he would be even more irresistible with a little less gray, a little richer hair color or a few brightening highlights in his hair. After so many years of knowing about haircolor, you’ll be able to explain the different ways his color can be enhanced. In the mood he’ll be in after his evening of indulgence, he’ll listen!

Mission accomplished! Best of all, in addition to introducing your man to the benefits of pampering himself a little, as a bonus – You’ve enjoyed a romantic and intimate evening together!

Robert Marshall
Free lance writer
Toronto

The phone rang; I think it was around 10.30 pm, I'd just finished updating my profile one more time. Every time I looked at it, I couldn't help thinking something was missing. Only 10 responses this week, hmmm… better make some adjustments.These latest changes to my profile have got to improve my response rate!

Hi, is this Mike?
Yes -(hmmm great voice she has)
Mike, the former astronaut, racing car driver, musician, navy seal and jet pilot?
Ah sure, who is this?
Oh, your profile came up in my searches and I find you so interesting!
Thank you, who is this again?
The girl of your dreams Mike. Love your picture, is that your jet?
Had to sell it this year.
What I like about your profile Mike, is that you seem so caring, very witty, trustworthy, intelligent and nice.
That, I am.
What really turns me on though, is that you are comfortable in jeans or a tuxedo - can have fun living in a tent, or at the Ritz. Your adventurous side is really something - did you really paddle up the Amazon for 8 weeks by yourself?
That's me!
You look so young for 40, what is your secret Mike?
I take good care of myself.
I see you that you like to salsa, so do I! It's nice to find someone who also loves to dance - you must have learned that on some of your covert missions to South America that you mentioned.
That was a while ago, I am afraid.
You know, Mike I really would like to meet you, perhaps for coffee; I'd love to hear all your stories. Mike, honesty is so important to me and I am glad you wrote that it is important for you too.
That's great, I am out of the country on assignment now and will not be back for awhile, I'll let you know when, thanks for calling.

Let's get real here guys. Make it simple, upbeat, and most importantly, honest. You will have to meet eventually, so just be yourself! A few recent photos along with your profile are what is needed. For you guys who don't post a picture, don't be surprised if your success rate is much lower. More and more people are meeting on line; it is the place to meet women. Read a few profiles of others to see the different styles that people use, then make it your own. Your on line personals service usually provides tips, so give them a read. A short profile will not generate as much interest as a more detailed one. Share your interests, your passions and most importantly be real about who you are! Stay open - don't restrict yourself by putting to many demands on the type of person you want. Remember that in the end, you want to attract someone who is going to like you for who you are. Happy hunting...

Menslooks editorial

While men in the United States and England have had upscale magazines such as GQ and Esquire published in their countries for years, Canadian men have never had a magazine to call their own. In April 2003, Toro set out to change that. Combining the intelligence of the best American men's magazines with the wit and irreverence of Britain's "lad" magazines, Toro charged into the Canadian marketplace, garnering an impressive number of accolades for its unique vision and style.

Presenting a compelling range of topics, including sports, entertainment, health, fashion, food, travel, grooming, gear, and, of course, women, Toro quickly established itself as the ultimate destination for the discerning Canadian male.

After just two issues, Toro received both platinum and gold Folio Awards in New York City for its highly original design. Toro also improved upon the four National Magazine Awards it won in 2004 with six awards in June 2005, including gold for investigative journalism and fashion photography, a category the magazine has dominated since its launch. Now in its third year, Toro continues to offer an enriching experience to sophisticated males across the country.

Visit their site at www.toromagazine.ca

Everyone knows that the benefits to being fit are numerous; now, sure, we'd all love to have that perfect washboard six pack, but you don't need that to be fit to look good. Eating a healthy diet and regular work outs will make you feel so much better. Never underestimate the power of endorphins!

Having trouble losing weight? Peter Liu examines the problems we face when trying to shed unwanted pounds and gives you tips on how to lose weight successfully.

Weight loss seems to be everyone’s favourite and least favourite topic. We are inundated with reports on the obesity epidemic plaguing North America, but the scales aren’t changing. The reason? It takes a lot more than talk to get rid of excess weight. And it’s not easy! We’ve all got a lot on our plates – literally. Our hectic lifestyles aside, there is a lot of unhealthy food out there and portion size is getting out of control.

Good news though – it’s not hopeless. Many people are becoming more health-conscious and want to make a serious effort to eat right and exercise. However, this doesn’t mean that weight loss is easy and many people end up frustrated. So what can you do? Let me give you a few ways to lose weight without losing your mind.

Get Your Mind in Shape

We’ve all heard of the battle of the bulge but that’s nothing compared to the wars you can have with your mind. If your mindset isn’t in the right place, then you might as well stop right now.

You know you have to improve your overall health with the proper foods and exercises, but if you let little problems get you down you’ll never be able to keep the weight off. If you’re looking for progress, remember that it’s a process that takes some time – weight loss doesn’t occur overnight. Cravings for sweets can be killer, and if you find yourself reaching for the Krispy Kremes, you’re just proving to yourself that you are willing to fail.

A positive attitude is the key here; learn to love your body, even the flabby parts.

Be Flexible

To make your body more flexible and fit, you’re going to need a flexible routine as well! Incorporating healthy choices into your lifestyle may require changing your schedule, your habits, and your life.

People have set routines that they adhere to and it’s hard to change that. However, to lose weight properly requires a serious commitment to your goals. That means you’ll have to change your routine and follow the new one just as stringently! Change your eating habits and your daily schedule. Set aside time to make food, buy healthy groceries, and exercise several times a week.

No More Excuses!

Do you use your busy life as an excuse to avoid exercising? You’re late for something and you haven’t eaten yet, so you grab something greasy and fattening to tide you over?

Getting lazy and using excuses will never help you lose weight, because it’s clear that you haven’t made a real commitment. People are always looking to lose weight as fast as possible, but I’m sorry to tell you, there is no magical secret. If there were, we’d all be at our ideal weights, right? Buckle in and get ready for a long process that you will actually benefit from. Don’t use the excuse that you don’t have time. Make the time.

If you’re sitting for most of the day, remember that weight gain occurs when you eat more calories than you use. Try to exercise whenever you have time – just don’t let people catch you doing Tai-Bo in the office! Fit in some time for working out and you’ll be fitting into those skinny jeans in no time.

Be Patient

As I stated above, there is no healthy method for rapid weight loss. Losing weight and keeping it off is a slow and gradual process. Many people expect immediate changes, and when they don’t get them, they give up. It’s best to aim for small goals. Take it slow and steady, and plan your steps.

One day you may decide to eat a salad instead of that swiss mushroom burger that drips fat. Or you may plan a week ahead for your meals. The point is to set achievable goals and be sure you can achieve them. Patience, patience, patience: lose no more than 0.5kg per week (1-2lbs), or 10kg (22lbs) in six months.

Forget About Numbers!

People have to start training themselves to understand that their weight isn’t always the best indicator of their fitness. Sometimes people gain weight when they start working out and get freaked out. This is the misconception that weight has been gained, leading you to think that your weight loss program isn’t working. It’s more likely that you are starting to gain muscle, and even if the scale isn’t saying what you’d like, you may notice that your clothes are actually fitting much looser. There is less fat in your body and you have more energy to spend, so rejoice!

Another possible reason for a stagnating scale is the possibility you’ve reached a plateau. When you exercise, your body can adapt and there will be no change as long as you keep doing the same exercises. Try switching up your routine to throw your body off, or add more weights.

Weight loss is for everyone!

Whether you have a hectic schedule or the wrong mindset, remember this: you can do it. It’s possible for everyone to lose weight and keep it off. It just requires some major but meaningful changes to your life.

You may have a rough time getting started, but once you get going I’m sure you’ll be happy that you did. Get out there!

Table manners exist for a reason. Good manners show a civility and respect for your tablemates. While manners vary from culture to culture, good conduct is still the norm. Acting like a barnyard animal at the trough won’t take you very far, nor will it garner you much respect. Besides, gentlemen just don’t do that.

Dinner is Served

Once dinner is under way, remember that it’s not a race to the finish. Pace yourself. Likewise, if you are last and holding up the next course, or perhaps dessert, maybe you are talking too much. Be aware of the scene and how it’s unfolding.

In respect to posture, there are only three things to remember:

Children may be served first, something small to get them started and to keep them occupied, but nothing messy. Otherwise, senior guests at the table should be given first opportunity at whatever they like. This shows respect and deference. Follow their cues.

Condiments

Some people like ketchup. It goes great with fries, burgers, and hot dogs. However, few things will break a host’s heart like asking for ketchup when a special dinner is served – or worse, you then drown your meal in the red goop.

Mustards are often available. Standard yellow mustard is not the way to go (think ketchup, only yellow). Dijon mustard is a common dinner counterpart. Whole grain mustards come in a wide assortment. Try some.

Horseradish is a common addition to beef. Chutneys are sometimes served with chicken or pork.

Salt, pepper, and a few items like nutmeg, paprika, or parsley flakes are also commonly available. Salt and pepper should be moved together even if only the one is asked for and they should be put onto the table, not into someone’s hand. This prevents the opportunity for it to be mishandled and dropped. Pass the stuff along and ask the person next to pass it along.

If something you like is missing from the table, you may ask the host if they have what you are looking for available. Don’t ask for something unusual you may have at home, but may not be something your host would have. It suggests that you are not satisfied with the way the food tastes and could be interpreted as insulting. It may be deliberate on the host’s part to NOT have certain add-ons available so as not to change the intended flavoring.

Forks and Fingers

For most proper sit-down meals, tools are used. Forks, knives, and spoons are pretty much universal. If chopsticks are presented, use them if you know how. If you don’t, do give them a try. If you cannot manage them or are concerned about making a mess, it’s okay to ask for western cutlery.

Some foods are meant to be eaten with your fingers. Chicken fingers can be eaten either way. Regular chicken is borderline. Proper dining calls for tools – picnics call for fingers. Burgers, fries, dogs, ribs, subs, bread, sandwiches, cookies, hors d’ouveres, and stemmed fruits are all finger friendly. Sates and kebabs are okay to hold in your hand, but the items should be removed to your plate with your fork.

It’s not Lemon Soup

Finger bowls are coming back into style. They are common at restaurants where a lot of finger-foods are served (chicken, ribs, etc.), but are not very common at private dinners. More recently, these accessories are finding a place at the table again. Finger bowls usually contain a bit warm water and a small chunk of lemon. Dip your fingertips in the bowl, but don’t use the bowl as a mini sink. After dipping, clean off your fingers on your napkin.

Dinner Delay

It happens sometimes. Things don’t go according to plan and dinner will be late. Go with the flow. Good hosts already know what’s going on, so don’t ask. If the meal is going to be delayed more than 15 minutes, the host will likely put something small out to tide things over. If you have a particular dietary requirement to eat by a certain time, privately ask the host if there is something you can have. Good hosts will accommodate.

Delay or no delay, the host will give the go-ahead to eat. If people are slow to respond and you are alone at the table or buffet, do not go ahead. Wait for at least one other person. If nobody comes, invite someone to get the process started. Unless it is a cold buffet dinner, the host will not appreciate going through all the trouble of preparing a hot meal only to have it go cold and uneaten.

Gadgets and Gizmos

Cell phones, PDAs, Blackberries, iPods, and other toys and personal entertainment devices are not cool at dinner. Only a few professionals and laypersons really need to be available during dinner (doctors, etc.). If you must be available, keep your phone on vibrate and if it does go off, excuse yourself from the table.

Dinner Rules

The elements of fine table manners are subjective and should not be taken too literally. Just be kind and courteous – always remember that food is a social event and should be treated as such.

It is now evident that the work of image consultants influences both the “inside”, as well as the “outside” human element. This will become the characteristic that most differentiates the image consulting industry as it grows in the future.
The study also proves to the general public that image consultants do not have to perform “extreme makeovers” or work with their clients for extended periods of time in order to impact their self-confidence.

29th August 2006

The October issue of Arena Magazine is out this week on Thursday, August 31st.

As ever, the smartest and most stylish men’s magazine is packed with sensational pictures, intelligent features, cutting-edge fashion and piercing insights into the modern world.

Included in this month’s issue are:

- Hearts FC – Arena tells the extraordinary inside tale of how Russian money and meddling saw Britain’s most dysfunctional club get through five managers in a year and make it into Europe

- Holly Valance – Sensational pictures and an exclusive interview with the erstwhile pop star and Aussie-soap sex symbol who is back to kick arse in Hollywood. The actress discusses her upcoming films, future business plans, meeting Paris Hilton for the first time – and reveals what really gets her going: “I’m a big food chick – schnitzel sandwiches are so good. Just a big lump of meat … it’s the small things that excite me.”

- Q&A With Ridley Scott – The director on retarded audiences, paper unicorns, moshing and finally a definitive answer on whether Deckard is a replicant. “Oh yes. The clues are there. The first one is where he’s drunk at the piano and he looks at all the photographs of his past. And of course this is a history and a past of an android who has no past,” he says.

- Girls of Indie – Spectacular pictures and interviews with indie music’s sexiest shining lights – Abi Harding from the Zutons, Charlotte Hatherley (formely of Ash), Liela Moss from the Duke Spirit, Carina Round, Juanita Stein from Howling Bells, the girls from the Donnas and Ana and Maya from Sohodolls. “We create a fantasy world for freaks and voyeurs,” says Maya. “So much expression isn’t allowed because someone somewhere deems it dirty. But were not stabbing people – we’ve just got a provocative edge. We take risks.”

- Bryce Dallas Howard – Ron Howard’s daughter and star of Lady In The Water tells Arena about her admiration for George Clooney, “I’d like to do what George Clooney’s doing where he acts in films, but if there’s a story that’s particularly important and intriguing to him, he tells it as well,” and her relationship with her father, “I’d love to work with him…I am doing a short film called Orchard at the moment for which Dad’s giving me the most important kind of support, ‘You can do it’,” she says.

- Welcome to your most frightening childhood moments – Arena works through an intense session of regression therapy and recalls the nightmarish images that shaped our warped world view. Playground intimidations, demented TV characters and even seeing your Dad drunk for the first time are some of the highlighted traumas of those early years.

- James Morrison –The singer-songwriter on eco-jeans and being compared to Chris Martin and Richard Ashcroft. “I don’t see myself like them,” says Morrison. “But they’re both great songwriters so if people put me in that category then …”

- Ricky Gervais and Stephen Merchant – The Brit comedy legends talk to Arena about the new series of Extras, offending the disabled and the price of fame and fortune. “The word celebrity makes me feel sick. I don’t want to align myself with people that love waving on the red carpet and having free champagne and falling out of places drunk,” says Gervais.

- Yunjin Kim (Sun Kwon from Lost) – Arena helps Lost’s most under-the-radar pleasure become a true sexpot for the first time with a sensational photo shoot. “I was really nervous about looking sexy, but when I saw [the pictures] I was so happy … I don’t think I’ve ever been so satisfied,” she says of the session. “I don’t think my Lost character will ever be a sexy woman. But it’s surprising what a little bikini can do.”

- Will Self – The acclaimed author and journalist reveals his lighter side. When asked what he would like written on his gravestone he jokes, “Just the names and dates. At this point in my life I’ve written and published getting on for three million words so I don’t need another seven.”

- Arena in Columbia – In South America’s most intractable civil war, a group of unarmed volunteers are all that stands between civilians and murderous paramilitaries. Arena joins the human barricade in fear of ‘the men who cut off heads’.

- Plus loads more…

Pictures and features may be reproduced by prior arrangement against agreed credits for magazine through Ian Monk Associates. Spokespeople are available for broadcast interviews and print comment. Please contact Charlotte Cormack at charlotte@ianmonk.com or on 020 8834 1810 or Kristy Mayo at

Indoor Rock Climbing for Fitness: It's Not Extreme Anymore
Once an activity labeled as an “extreme sport”, rock climbing has in the last few years become a very popular workout activity as the use of indoor climbing walls in fitness facilities, community centers and health clubs has increased and made the sport much more user friendly. Not only can it be fun and exciting, rock climbing is one of the most effective strength training workouts a person can ever have, providing fitness and strength benefits that are difficult to match with any other single activity. If you want to work out every muscle in your body in the shortest amount of time possible and get quick results in strength, body shape, toning and muscular endurance, there is no better thing to do. It burns a tremendous amount of calories as well, assisting with weight or fat loss. And did I mention that it is fun? Participants sometimes have such a blast that they even forget to feel tired!

Around twenty years ago, the very first climbing gyms started appearing around the United States. One of the first was The Vertical Club in Seattle, Washington, and that is where I first took a lesson and learned to climb. My experience walking in there in 1993 was TOTALLY different than a new climber would have walking into the average climbing facility now. Back then, climbing gyms were primarily the domain of serious rock climbers who needed a way to stay in shape during the bad weather months or in between trips to outdoor climbing locations. Climbing as a general fitness activity hadn’t arrived yet.

When I entered the facility that day, I was first greeted by a man on crutches who told me he had just broken his ankle in an outdoor climbing fall. He seemed pretty intense. There were several men climbing near the front without shirts on, their bodies seemingly made of nothing but muscle and sinew. One of them was attempting a climbing move just a few feet off the ground right in front of his buddies, who stood no more than arms reach from him, shouting him encouragement and prepared to break his fall if he came off the wall. He was exerting himself fully while trying the move, and I was struck by his effort, while all he had to do was literally put his foot down and he would have been standing directly on the ground.

I felt somewhat intimidated by the atmosphere. The place was definitely filled with people who climbed seriously, and at that time I was definitely someone who did not. I was glad I was there to take an actual lesson because I would have absolutely no idea how to start for myself. My teacher was the owner of the club, and he was very friendly and helpful. It was almost like having my own personal trainer. By the end of the 2 hour lesson I knew my way around the gym and the equipment and knew how to belay another climber and tie myself into the rope for safety. And I had climbed from the bottom of the walls to the top several times successfully. I was officially a climber, albeit a very enthusiastic beginner.

In the present day, a first trip to a climbing facility for a beginner will be a completely different experience. There are many more climbing gyms around, and like I mentioned above, many fitness centers and health clubs have climbing walls now. These climbing gyms and fitness center walls are used much more now by the average fitness enthusiast who is looking for a fun way to workout or have some recreation, and beginner classes abound. The look and feel of the facilities is usually very family friendly. Birthday parties and social events for kids, corporate outing and team building for adults as well as family recreation outings make up a huge percentage of the business for climbing walls nowadays. A first time visitor will be greeted by an enthusiastic staff wearing matching t-shirts and typically watch a safety video that gives an overview of the procedures of the facility. Then in a small group or individually, they are led out to attempt a few climbs before they are cleared to use the place on their own. The extensive orientation I received at The Vertical Club is mostly a thing of the past. The equipment and safety set up is much easier for the average person to learn, which gets them climbing and having fun sooner. This has greatly increased the number of people who participate in climbing and has led to the serious climbers that I saw on my first trip to The Vertical Club frequently being the minority in the gym at any given time.

Getting your exercise while climbing indoors usually involves you making your way from the floor toward the ceiling of the facility using plastic holds for your hands and feet that have the same look and feel as real rock. These are attached to a wall that is textured to resemble a real cliff face. As you make your way to the top, a cable attached to an automatic belay device or a rope attached to your partner and tied to your safety harness that you wear keeps you safe from a fall. Most indoor facilities have walls for roped climbing that go up to about 30 feet in height, though some in the United States go from 60 to 90 feet. Most facilities also have a version of climbing called bouldering where the climber is not roped but never climbs more than 10-15 feet off the ground, protecting against a fall with large gymnastics pads moved around on the floor underneath. Snug fitting climbing shoes with specially made rubber soles are worn for incredible grip against the footholds.

Indoor rock climbing requires exactly the same fitness and muscle strength and enduranace demands as doing it outdoors. And the benefits are awesome! Unlike traditional weight training which involves lifting weight in a controlled movement in a gym or home setting, rock climbing is “strength training with a twist”: you as the climber are now the weight going up or down and rather than an arbitrary number of repetitions to be performed to complete a set, the goal of climbing is to get to the top of the wall. It doesn’t matter how it is accomplished, either. Climbing doesn’t have to look pretty to be effective. The result is a change of focus away from the effort of repetitions to the effort of working toward the immediately achievable goal of reaching the top. This can result in a very empowering feeling of accomplishment for the climber, because each trip up the wall holds a challenge that can be overcome and a goal that is achieved. This is what has been known to be addicting and can lead you to want to do more. And when you want to do more, you will keep doing it. And that is the biggest secret for long term success in fitness: keep doing it! It is amazing what consistency can accomplish.

Chuck Carter is a personal trainer and President of LiveLeanToday.com. To read more from Chuck and learn more about how activities like indoor rock climbing can be a successful part of your fitness program, visit www.LiveLeanToday.com. rock climbing strength training muscle endurance tone weight loss fat personal trainer. Once labeled an extreme sport, rock climbing has moved indoors and anyone with a sense of fun and adventure can use it to improve their fitness

• Global economy.
• International business. Work continues 24 hours around the world.
• Advanced communication technology.
• Longer hours. Changes in family roles. Married workers in today’s world are dual-career couples.

• Fatigue. Your ability to think and your eye-hand coordination decrease when you are tired.
• Family. You may miss out on important events, which may harm relationship with your loved ones.
• Friends. They are an important part of your support system. If you are spending time working, it may be difficult to nurture those relationships.
• Expectations. Once you work those extra hours, you may be given more responsibility, which would in turn require more time out of you.

• Keep a log.
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• Manage your time.
• Rethink your cleaning standards. Not making your bed or leaving dirty dishes in the sink will not impact your quality of life.
• Communicate clearly.
• Fight the guilt.
• Nurture yourself.
• Set aside one night each week for recreation.
• Protect your day off.
• Get enough sleep.
• Bolster your support system.
• Seek professional help. A huge resource to you is your human resources’ employee assistance program.